Develop your communication skill

Slow down - listen - think - then talk.

Angry people tend to jump to - and act on – conclusions. Often those conclusions can be very distorted and inaccurate.

Don’t let your anger build. Slow down and rethink the first things that come to mind when a heated discussion takes place. Your choice of words and emphasis is very important. So too is body language.  It makes sense to maintain good eye contact and pay attention to your facial expression and hand gestures. 

Attack the problem not the person. Listen carefully to what they have to say and try not to argue.

Take time to decide the best course of action. Be patient with the other person and avoid put-downs. Compromise may be an option and lead to an amicable resolution.

Respect each other and recognise when to quit. When it is over, let it be over.

Change your environment

Sometimes it's our immediate surroundings that give us cause for irritation and fury. Problems and responsibilities can weigh on you and make you feel angry at the "trap" you seem to have fallen into and all the people and things that form that trap.

Give yourself a break. Make sure you have some 'personal time'.  Find alternatives to your daily routine that are more soothing. Breaks throughout the day can help you stay focused and relaxed.

Humour
Use humour to dissolve some of your pent up feelings. Humour can diffuse both the physical and emotional effects of anger. 

Reducing your rage through humour can bring a more calm and settling atmosphere, and help you attain a more balanced perspective.

'Silly humour' often works best.   If someone is really making you angry, visualise them in an unusual ludicrous situation.  Playing ping-pong in the nude!  Sitting opposite you wearing a snorkel and flippers!  Stuck to the loo with super glue!

Jokes - make them short. When anger is around one-liners work better than 'shaggy dog' stories.

Learn to 'step out of your body'. Just imagine how funny and ridiculous you must look and sound when you are ranting and raving!

There are two cautions in using humour. First, don't try to just ‘laugh off’ your problems; rather, use humour to help yourself face them more constructively. Second, don't give in to harsh, sarcastic humour; that's just another form of unhealthy anger expression.